Day 2 at my Youth Leader Job

[nova_myth]

Today was little but easier and also a little bit harder. I was able to take on a more hands on role with the kids but it wore down quickly. I have a few mischief makers you could say and one potential trouble maker. Ironicly my only potential trouble maker is a girl. She's being very manipulative and sassy. Really sassy, she makes me think more of a kid in middle school than a child in the 2nd grade!

Another one of my girls cried, I thought she had fallen or something because it was during their play time outside. Turns out she was in a group with about half of the girls I look after and her father was brought up. Her father, from what I could gather, recently had surgery. Why I have no idea, other than its in his abdomen he's hurt. She was upset because she couldn't hug him and they he was hurt. So I sat down with her and told her that people had surgery all the time, and he will get better. I showed her my scars on the back of my ears from when I had surgery and told her its just a matter of time before she could hug him again. I also told her she can hug his arm and tell him how much she loves him and that would make him feel better. 

Beyond that is was girl drama and even a little boy drama. The boys were more of your typical things you would see with kids their age. The girl drama was horrid. It was a she said, she said kind of thing. We can't really do anything but try to keep them from arguing and keep peace. And this is where the potential trouble maker comes in, she's in the center of all it.  I really can't say much, I've only been there two days, but wow. I really do think I can do this job, its just getting the routine, procedures, and all the kids names right. After that and a little bit more guidance on how to handle them I think I'll be okay.

Comments

[mscatmoon.livejournal.com]

Wow,good luck w/the kids/new job. That was really sweet, what you said to the little girl to comfort her. Poor thing... I'm sure moments like that make the other stuff you deal with worthwhile.
Well, today I finally bite the bullet and tell me roommate that I won't be sharing with her anymore once the lease is up, so I'm pretty anxious about how it's going to go. Send positive thoughts!

[nova-myth.livejournal.com]

ek! ::throws luck charms and four leaf clovers::

::chants::I wish the best of luck upon you, make your room mate take the blow and lock herself in her room and leave you be and peace be with you!

[mscatmoon.livejournal.com]

Thanks -- it worked! LOL. Her only response was: "If that's the direction you feel is right for you, then go for it. I'll look for a 1-br when I start hunting. Thanks for the heads-up." (WOW--I mean, this is the person who freaked out & screamed at me when I accidentally left my laundry basket on the floor & she tripped over it, and the person who's always reminding me how "short" she is, & expected me to pay 1/2 the moving expenses for her stuff, & was talking like we'd be living together long term...). Tis' a Christmas miracle! ;-)

[nova-myth.livejournal.com]

Tis the season of Mircales! I just hope I get one too. I got a few things I'm working on the next two week I hope they go well. If they don't their is not really any big lost but if they do, good grief things will go so much easier. And for once they don't concern my housemate. lol. Glad it all came to pass so well. That's a bit weight off your chest. But be wary, my housemate does this; she'll act its alright there is no problem but when things get tough she starts getting at me for making it harder for her. I hope your roomate doesn't do that. Thankfully for me when my housemate starts that up I call the landlord and it stops in about a week, though she holds a temper grudge for like a month. My friend's boyfriend often says, "So Angry." ROFL!

the other shoe

[mscatmoon.livejournal.com]

Ah,yes, and the other shoe has indeed dropped. The very next day she's "all stressed out" and asking me if I can stay for another 6 months at least, because she can't make it on her own without a roommate to share expenses and if I leave she'll be screwed... I suggested she try Roommates.com. ;-) But I'm so afraid she's going to pull some shit like losing her job figuring I won't be able to leave (but of course won't admit it or it'll be subconscious manipulation). What a mess. The thing that really gets to me is she makes more than twice what I do! And wastes $. I scrimp and save and do without. Yet I'm the one who can manage to live alone but she has to have me to help her! That really pisses me off. (and the ants in this horrible apt. got into my laptop.. and now I'm noticing the keys don't want to work and I'm wondering if that's why... GOD I HATE THIS PLACE. I just bought this computer and it was cheap but to me a LOT of $$!!!) Yeah, I'm gonna be real pissed if I end up with a broken computer. It'll be the SECOND one got ruined since living here -- as my %^$$ roommate left everything on during a lightning storm and FRIED everything and it went thru the ethernet cable into my PC. This laptop is only a couple month's old! Sorry or raving. Not a happy camper. :-(

Re: the other shoe

[nova-myth.livejournal.com]

I am not either. My landlord has been here all week. She had an old pantry put in. The house we live in was a horrible mess, like the horror houses you'd see on Animal Cops on Animal Planet. They cleaned it up but salvaged a few things, barely. They salvaged the top cabinets and the pantry. BUT, its covered it... guck. Its disgusting and to make it work the kitchen is a TOTAL mess! My landlord said she wouldn't let her daughter leave with it being a mess again like she did her last trip to Michigan. Its looking like that is gonna be a lie through her teeth!!! And if that wasn't everything my housemate has apparently now been lying about ME! I know she's been lying on what she does around the house; she's told her Aunt things but when the Aunt shows up, surprise surprise. Ugh. She's been telling her family outside the two Aunts that really know me that I don't believe in Christmas, don't celebrate it, and don't want anything to do with it. I was SO sputtering mad I had to really really bite my tongue from spewing loud and clear for the rest of the neighboorhood from hearing me, since we were in the garage. And she had the nerve to throw my so called Christmas Present at me when I got home. If her mother wasn't in town I would have thrown it right back and have it hit her in the fucking head for all I was worth. These people are Christain, border line Evangelical, and they worry about ME going to hell? I may not attend a church but I follow the ten commandments a lot more than that piece of fat crap excuse of a human being!!!! It makes me sick!

Re: the other shoe

[mscatmoon.livejournal.com]

I really hope things improve for both of us, soon. It really sucks to live with all that aggraviation. Unfortunately, often it's the people who like to throw their Christian beliefs in other's faces that are actually the worse hypocrites and don't *live* it. IMHO God isn't found exclusively in a church, He's everywhere. Not that I'll be celebrating Xmas, as I have like 0 interest at this point. My roommate is now of course throwing it in my face that she helped me when I moved to Atlanta & I'm bailing on her now. That I am earning bad Karma & will be "punished" for that, etc. I can't tell her the real truth it would just make her madder, and I can't even argue with her because it will do no good. I could tell her I've paid her back already, but that'll just prolong an argument. All I can do is remain silent. And deal with the tension in the house as she makes my life miserable for the next 3 months. I'm VERY sensitive to that kind of hostility in my environment, it makes me a nervous wreck. I wish I could afford to leave NOW, pack up & get out while she's not here. But hell, even if I was able to afford to pay my half of the rent on this place and another too, I'd have to trust her to actually PAY it since my name's on the lease too so I'm also legally responsible for all of it. I could see her deciding to get back at me by not paying. I knew this was going to happen, that's why I put it off so long. Maybe I should have put it off even longer. But I try to be a fair, decent person. As usual, I'll be suffering for that. But I swear... I'm tempted to get out now. The complex I want to live in has a vacancy now. The hell with the consequences, even if it means going into credit card debt to pay the entire 3 months' rent on this place to avoid ruining my credit... I don't trust her, or what she might do. and I don't think I'm up to the worry I'll be going through for the next couple months. I worry for myself, and for the safety of my cat, all alone in the apt. with her all night while I'm at work.